The Family Shelter’s Mission for Shelter is a community mission project, and every contribution makes a difference. Since 2015 the Family Shelter’s bed days have increased 61%, which means that the amount of time families have spent in the shelter has increased 61%, unfortunately our state and federal funding have not increased.  Every mission project has a goal and ours is to help victims of domestic violence  find peace, security, and move forward. Join us in our mission for shelter so that when our neighbors need help you know that we will be there to care for them.

To contribute to the campaign visit our donation page here.

 

There’s a correlation between pet abuse and domestic violence–dogs, cats, livestock & other domesticated animals. Relevant statistics on domestic violence and animal abuse include:

  • 52 % of victims in domestic violence shelters leave their pets with their batterers
  • Up to 65 % of domestic violence victims are unable to escape their abusers because they are concerned about what will happen to their pets when they leave
  • 71% of pet-owning women entering women’s shelters reported that their batterer had injured, maimed, killed or threatened family pets for revenge or to psychologically control victims
  • A Texas study found that batterers who also abuse pets are more dangerous and use more violence and controlling behaviors than those who do not harm animals!

 

There’s indicators that if he/she is abusing the cat or dog, there’s a strong link to child abuse & assault!

 

WHY DO ABUSERS BATTER ANIMALS?

  • To demonstrate power and control over the family
  • To isolate the victim and children
  • To enforce submission
  • To perpetuate an environment of fear
  • To prevent the victim from leaving or coerce her to return
  • To punish for leaving or showing independence

 

What Victims Can Do?

  • Tell Law Enforcement
  • Add Pet(s) to the Protective Order (now allowed in Texas!)
  • Include pets in the Safety Plan

 

WHAT YOU CAN DO!

  • Foster a pet when the victim goes to the domestic violence shelter
  • Incorporate in school programs education about this issue–particularly those that might reach children at risk of family violence
  • Support the Family Shelter with your gifts or Donate to www.redrover.org who helps with boarding grants!

 

Here is a partial list of the reasons most women will return to their abusers seven (7) times before they decide to leave for good.

  • She believes she’s somehow to blame.
  • There are children in the home.
  • She has feelings of abandoning the family.
  • Fear.
  • Economic reality.
  • Threats.
  • Lack of Support.
  • Feelings of guilt.
  • Lack of resources.
  • Feelings of powerlessness.
  • Cultural pressures.
  • Religious beliefs.
  • Love.
  • Promises of change.
  • Lack of options.

Here’s an example:

John is a really nice guy when sober. Linda is very much in love with him and hopes that they will grow old together. John is a great father to their two children, is helpful around the house and is a great cook. The problem occurs after he has had too much to drink. John becomes a whole different person.  He starts to accuse his wife of having an affair, becomes abusive and very argumentative. Linda, realizing he is drunk, tries to walk away and leave John to his bad mood but this only adds to his anger and he starts to become violent.

The next morning, John can not believe what he has done and is full of regret and remorse. He can not say “Sorry!” enough and begs for Linda’s forgiveness. He promises that it will never happen again and says that he will give up the alcohol if that would make her happy.  This scenario has been repeating itself a few times every month for over two years.

Linda decides she has had enough (for the 3rd time this year). After John leaves for work, she gathers up the children, loads them into the car and, after several phone calls, ends up at the local domestic violence shelter.

Using the list of reasons why most women return to their abuser, can you figure out which ones Linda is likely experiencing, leading to her eventual return to her husband?

If Linda’s story is too close to your or a friends current reality, please call

24-hour Hotline 800-749-8631

and speak with one of our staff.